Parenting Your Challenging Child: Random Topics of Significant Interest

What's More Informative Than a Psychiatric Diagnosis? (program aired live on April 29, 2013)
Hint: Just about everything. But you'll have to listen to this program for the details. LISTEN NOW

Restitution (program aired live on April 10, 2012)
Making amends is fine...but solving problems so a child doesn't have to make amends in the first place is even better. LISTEN NOW

Parents Do Well If They Can Too (program aired live on March 27, 2012)
Sometimes parents who are new to Collaborative & Proactive Solutions* are very hard on themselves for not knowing about it in the first place and feel pretty bad about what they were doing before. But you can't fault yourself for what you didn't know. LISTEN NOW 

"What if I'm Lacking Skills Too?" (program aired live on October 22, 2012)
Your child isn't the only one lacking skills...and s/he's not the only one learning new skills through Plan B either! LISTEN NOW

How Do You Know You're Using Plan B? (program aired live on September 17, 2012)
Dr. Greene responded to questions today, and there were some good ones! How do you know you're using Plan B? What if your co-parent isn't on board with CPS*? What do you do once your child is already in the midst of an explosion? Answers, of course, were provided! LISTEN NOW

Get Busy, the Meds are Working! (program aired live on January 28, 2013)
On today's program, Dr. Greene spent some time talking with the dad of a child whose aggressive, violent behavior has been reduced dramatically by various medications. The take-home message: take advantage of the lull so as to practice and get good at Plan B...because, if the goal is for the child to be medication-free someday, something is going to have to replace the meds. LISTEN NOW

Feelings versus Concerns (program aired live on February 28, 2012)
It's certainly fine to ask a child how he or she feels about an unsolved problem...but if you want to solve the problem, gathering information about his or her concern or perspective is even better. LISTEN NOW 

Understanding Comes Before Helping (program aired live on January 24, 2012)
What treatment options should you consider for your behaviorally challenging child?  You can't really answer that question until you achieve a clear understanding of what's causing your child's difficulties. Without that understanding, there's the risk of haphazardly trying many different treatments. Better to use the ALSUP so you can take aim. LISTEN NOW

Lots of Good Questions, Lots of Good Answers (program aired live on January 17, 2012)
Some sad stories on today's program, but also some hope: we have the technology to identify kids' lagging skills and unsolved problems, and we have the technology to see that those problems get solved. A very informative program covering a wide range of topics.  LISTEN NOW

Stop Hitting Kids (and Start Solving Problems) (program aired live on November 8, 2011)
Is spanking a kid ever a good idea? Not if you know why challenging kids are challenging (lagging skills) and are solving the problems (collaboratively) that are giving rise to their challenging episodes! LISTEN NOW 

Is My Child Playing Me for a Fool? (program aired live on October 11, 2011)
On today's program, Dr. Greene heard about the efforts of a mom who was struggling to do Plan B with her son...and gave some (hopefully) helpful tips on how to fine-tune the effort (including some of the things mom was thinking that were getting in the way). LISTEN NOW

The Value(s) of Plan B (program aired live on September 27, 2011)
On this program, Dr. Greene answered questions from emailers and covered a wide range of topics...including what to do when religious or cultural values and Plan B seem inconsistent with each other. LISTEN NOW

Allies and Light Bulbs (program aired live on September 20, 2011)
On today's program, we heard from two different parents who were having difficulty making sure their children were well-understood and well-treated at school. Our key theme: nothing takes the place of identifying a kid's lagging skills and unsolved problems prior to making placement decisions. LISTEN NOW

Energy Back (program aired live on September 13, 2011)
In this first program of the new school year, Dr. Greene responded to some of the email he received over the summer. Some familiar themes: the necessity of creating a (very specific) list of unsolved problems, prioritizing (so you know what problems you're working on right now and the ones you're not), and, most importantly, solving problems collaboratively and proactively. It's very hard...but when parents do those things, over time, they get their energy back. LISTEN NOW 

This is Hard! (program aired live on May 17, 2011)
Parenting and teaching kids with behavioral challenges is really hard.  But there are things adults can do to make it even harder, and things adults can do to make it easier (not easy, easier). LISTEN NOW 

Progress Reports (program aired live on February 8, 2011)
We heard back from some prior callers today, who gave us updates on how they and their kids are faring with Collaborative & Proactive Solutions*.  The news is good (but the work is never done).  LISTEN NOW

Lots of Questions, Some Answers, and an Update (program aired live on February 16, 2010)
How do you keep from barking at your child and stop your blood from boiling when your child is exhibiting challenging behavior? Can puberty set challenging behavior in motion? Is it time to think about medication? Why does challenging behavior sometimes occur at home and not at school? LISTEN NOW

Glad You Asked!
(program aired live on May 4, 2010)
Is individual therapy a good way to use Collaborative & Proactive Solutions? Why don't some solutions stand the test of time and what should happen when they don't? How crucial is it that both parents be on board with the model? LISTEN NOW

It's Your Call 
(program aired live on April 6, 2010)
What happens if you skip the Empathy step?  You arrive at solutions without really understanding the unsolved problem. Why are some kids able to hold it together at school but not at home? LISTEN NOW

Random Topics of Great Interest
(program aired live on April 20, 2010)
Do parents have the right to have input into their children's IEP (Individualized Education Plan)? If so, how best to provide input without alienating the folks at school? What should you do if you find yourself slipping back into Plan A? LISTEN NOW

*Dr. Greene is the originator of the Collaborative Problem Solving approach -- and referred to his model by that name in his articles, chapters, research papers, and books prior to 2013 -- but now calls his model Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS). Read more here.