I picked up the books "The Explosive Child" and "Lost at School" after they were recommended by my child's elementary school. It was quite a change in parenting philosophy for me.
We have been working on the Empathy step for months. None of this time is wasted; all has been productive and has reduced friction at home.
I want to say how important I believe Dr. Greene's instructions about following the prescribed steps really are to our success. Empathy first. I have made the mistake several times of proceeding without all the information I needed about my child's concerns. We are still working on the Empathy step, but even the failures have provided greater communication skills for my child and increased control for her over her own life.